By Keisha Stoute

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Actions speak louder than words and when your decisions negatively influence your life, it’s time for a change! We all have experienced unfavorably outcomes and at the end of the day you must move
forward and be ready for bigger and better opportunities. Cleansing your life is not just a promise that you make for New Years but it should occur daily. In order to reach your full potential you must make positive, wiser and healthier choices. 

During this process you will encounter dead weight jokers, yo-yos and fast talkers who will interfere with your growth! By allowing them access in your
life; you are empowering them with control that they do not deserve. Remove the lens of distortion from your eyes and see your full potential! Despite the dark and lonely moments make peace and discover your inner beauty. Cleanse your life and change your world!

Life does not come wrapped up in a big red bow but their lessons and experiences are priceless.  You may experience hardship and pain but you will eventually come out on top. When disaster strikes, realize that better days are coming your way, jump start your journey and change your thinking! 
 
Cleansing your life starts with you. In order to make changes you must realize your worth, discover your passion and redefine your support system. Discovering your passion is not a quick fix process but a lifetime journey. Everyone must realize how valuable they are and what they bring to the table. Figuring out what makes you smile from ear to ear and what you like doing each and every day is the main objective. Empowering yourself with positive phrases, things and the right people is a necessity. Getting rid of negative garbage, unsupportive people and old acquaintances will allow you room for endless chances for success. Change your mind, elevate your dream!

Each day gives you an opportunity to make life what you desire. If you change your thinking, cleanse your life and elevate your dream, things will happen at the right time. In order to make things happen you must have a plan. Developing a plan for success is the key in making your dreams a reality.  In attaining your goals you must seek out healthier people who will assist along the way. If you find yourself
reverting back to old behaviors find the courage to say “no” and move forward.
Remember that this is a process not a quick fix. The power of change starts with
you, so make it happen! 


 

 
 

By Keisha Stoute

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Getting a date is easy, but finding a
quality one is the challenge. The dating game has turned into a circus of award winning performances from crooks, thieves, liars and other cunning characters. In order to survive you must utilize two important factors; basic instincts and common sense. If you are not careful, you will be the monkey in the middle!

Men and women date individuals who constantly fall below their standard and often wonder why things do not work out. From time to time we all need a pep talk about our costly mistakes. In the beginning everyone smells like roses but the scent of a dating offender is obvious.

Dating offenders are individuals who play by their own set of distorted rules. There are two types of dating offenders, naive and sophisticated. Naive offenders are easy to fool and believe everything. Sophisticated offenders are manipulative and complicated in their trickery traps and swindling acts! Learn the errors that are affecting your game.

 Naive Dating Offenders… 

1. Believe that they are the only one. Sophisticated dating offenders are good at making you feel like you are the only person in their life. You must realize that
everyone is a free agent until negotiation talks have occurred and an agreement
has been made.

 2Calls that person a boyfriend or girlfriend after a few dates. People
get excited because things are going well and often accelerate the process by
labeling the relationship too soon. Take your time and determine if this person
is right for you.

 3Gets involved in a friend with benefit situation hoping for more.
Many are duped because they get involved with people who do not want a
relationship but enjoy the benefits! Gullible people settle for this type of
relationship hoping that things will change in the future. If someone wants to
be committed to you they will.

 4. Waits for someone to commit after long periods of time.
 Actions speak louder than words! It should not take anyone an extended period of time to determine if they want to commit to you. Stop wasting your time hoping and believing; it is not going to happen!


 Sophisticated Offenders…

 1. Tells a date that they are involved in a situation. When a male or female tells you this, run for the hills because they are trouble. Sophisticated dating offenders are usually looking for sympathy so that they can have the best of both worlds. Do not waste any time, keep things moving.

 2. Mentions that they have a really good platonic relationship with
an ex that they still see but nothing else.
If you are ready to move on you will officially close the doors of your past. Manipulators usually play this card to see what they can get away with and what you will tolerate. These individuals down play the content of their relationship with an ex because it is really the opposite of what they are telling you. Remember, if it important to mention, it is important to know.

 3Appears bitter or broken hearted from a previous relationship that did not work out. This is a big one! Men and women sing the song of gloom and doom from so called hurt feelings that have not been resolved. They are looking to be in control of the situation and will leave you high and dry in due time. Tricksters play this card often so they give you a bogus reason as to why the relationship will not work. Next!

 4. Ask for time to figure out where things are going.
Bologna! If someone wants to be with you, they will! Asking for time usually signals procrastination and trying to formulate excuses to get out of the situation. Honesty is the best policy.

 In the end every dating experience comes with valuable lessons. It is important to see what category you fall under in order to make improvements. If you are making the same mistakes repeatedly, take responsibility and change. End the circus acts of deceit and become a quality option with great possibilities!


 
 

By Keisha Stoute

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In life we all say and do things that we truly do not mean. People often make bogus plans with others knowing that it will never happen. Sometimes false promises are made just because it sounds good and that is what you think that others want to hear. Perception is the biggest deception and everyone has been guilty as charged!

For example, we all have told someone that they looked good when in fact we were laughing on the inside and hoping that they will look in the mirror and change their mind. Let us not forget eating nasty food and putting on a fake smile and saying that it was delicious. Really!  False hope has been given to friends who are in a doomed relationships but  instead of being honest you tell lies.

At times everyone is a performer and you do what you think that is expected and acceptable. No one wants to be the barer of bad news so things are said to keep the peace and to maintain face. As a performer you mislead and wrongly direct someone because you are trying to be nice but  what you are really doing is being deceitful. Giving people a distorted reality is fake, unfair and most importantly unnecessary! 

In reality people avoid the truth because they fear confrontation and want to be accepted by others. The problem with telling tales is that life has a way of coming back around and what you have done to others someone will do to you. Eventually things start adding up and you will come up short. Being honest is not popular but it is the best policy. 

Performers often know what to say and will continue to say things until they get caught. Busted! Men and women often twist the truth when dealing with each other and are scared of the consequences. As you get older experience teaches you that actions speak louder than words. When in doubt about something or someone consider their actions because the rest is just talk! Stop being a performer and be real with yourself and others. You can be honest and say displeasing things with tact and compassion. Give true meaning to your words and make them count!